Dear Feminists,

I hope you all are well at the time of reading this! I wanted to write this to further grasp understanding to what it is exactly that encompasses the feminist movement. I am well aware that like many large “groupings” there are different sectors that have differing opinions and define their priorities a bit different than others. For instance, it is to my understanding that there are some who are strictly in the realm of women being completely independent commonly labeled “man-haters” due to believing they do not need a man’s help at all. There are those who are solely focused on the continued fight of equal rights for women amongst men within careers and other everyday situations. Then there are those who are pushing for a higher standard of woman so to speak. I’m sure there are more sects that can be delved into, but those three make a fine example given those are the most talked about from what I’ve experienced. It is completely fair to say that if you yourself define yourself as a feminist that you may fall into all three or any form of mixture. Given the broadness of the term “feminist”, I know that each individual can define it completely different from the next. So, what is it that you hold most dear in regards to being a feminist?

I myself am a man, so hopefully those who hold disdain towards us can tolerate the questions to possibly shed more knowledge on what it is exactly you would consider feminism to be. Why is it you choose to label yourself with that term? What has getting involved in such a movement done for you in your life? Have you seen a positive change personally and around you since partaking in it? There are many questions that can be asked as I am a curious person who likes to learn more about the cultures around him. However, there are a few points that I would like to go into further where I have found some controversy as is usually the case with any form of societal group.

It seems that when you bring up pornography there is a pretty substantial divide within your community. What side of the fence do you find yourself on? There seems to be a favor for it by some, claiming that it is something that provides empowerment, freedom, or expression. There is also the side that claims it is completely degrading, disrespectful, and treacherous to the imagery of women. What is it that you feel? Are you one of those who stand up for that industry with which some women are making quite a bit of money or are you one who believes it is a type of slavery in a man’s world?

It is hard for me to believe that any woman could call themselves a protector of the gender, while many women are forced to do things against their will within that particular industry. The other factors of looking at differing statistics of lifestyles resulting from such involvements stem to drug addiction, countless surgical alterations, diseases, abortions, etc. I am not one to argue that there are women who blatantly choose that lifestyle as it is everyone’s right to have a choice having free will and everything. My question is what about those who don’t have a choice because of said industry influencing certain types of behavior or underground “industries” that actually enslave women for financial gain? Human trafficking is a huge problem as is rape, if you support pornography do you not draw correlations? What is your counter argument for claiming one is acceptable and not the other? Does it lie just within the realm of “choice” or is it something deeper? Some of the women making lots of money in that industry have said they feel trapped or felt they had no other choice but to dive into that type of career. Does it not bother you that harassment is still so prevalent these days within or outside of said industry? What about the fact that it seems more women are being encouraged to participate in a lifestyle where their body is the focus instead of their mental capabilities?

I see the inner turmoil of the group and continue to wonder how something so prominent can result in such a divide. Is it simply just a case of being so vast like many other groups that there are just so many differing opinions or is it something a bit different since there are no set beliefs to follow or abide by? If someone labels themselves as one of your own, a feminist, are they a hypocrite or falsely labeling themselves if they support something that can be in essence a detriment to women? What exactly is the consensus in regards to how support is given to those identifying as a feminist? How many different options are there out there for women to get involved in the movement in regards to organizations or awareness opportunities? One could simply tell me to “google it”, but as mentioned prior I know each individual defines things a bit differently… so it is my hopes that a response can be given to further learn from a more diverse crowd.

I, personally, am in full support of women’s rights, but prefer those that are in line with a quality moral code. Things like earning wages, job opportunities, work environments, education, etc. are all things with which I can get behind and support. Then there are others avenues that try to portray hatred, when all they want in return is acceptance. Sometimes it can get a bit silly in my opinion, for instance, when I try to hold the door for a woman and they refuse to go through it by either opening a different door or just standing there. I can understand independence and the like, but is it really necessary for those types of extremes? As I said, I would never culminate a singular opinion on such a diverse group. I again, am moreso curious as to the thoughts of those who label themselves as such. Like many other large groupings, what is it that makes your cause different?

I thank you for your time in reading and hope that you will take the time to respond to some of the questions. I apologize for the limited options of talking points and the minimum focus on a particular topic, but still hope that something can come out of it. As stated, I am always looking to learn and what better way that to ask questions that could potentially lead to more discussion. Have a great day!

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