Oposto

Women are a gifted prize
Not meant to be objectified
Not for my eyes or by my mind
But protected side by side like my heart inside

No questions about their situation
If they need help they should get it
In a world where we’ve lost gentlemen
Chivalry barely still exists

Both genders have changed
Our culture so deranged
Relations that use to be reserved
Are taking place younger and younger

How can it be that slavery isn’t seen
When it isn’t hidden, but shown clearly
Each day another one chooses the wrong industry
In this day it continues to be leading in money

Is that all life is anymore is something monetary
I can’t bear the thought of these tragedies
Promoting these feelings of entering
Such a life where real hope is lacking

I try not to judge and I try not to criticize
But I was raised to never cross those lines
Morals are being tested and mutilated
While this evil is elevated

I see women and I smile
I think about women and I’m in denial
There is a need that exceeds kindness
However many see it as nonsense

I’ve been blessed and I use to be stagnant
I’ve since progressed and began to exercise my talents
Each person of the opposite sex I meet
Immediately gets respect and encouragement from me

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Dear Feminists,

I hope you all are well at the time of reading this! I wanted to write this to further grasp understanding to what it is exactly that encompasses the feminist movement. I am well aware that like many large “groupings” there are different sectors that have differing opinions and define their priorities a bit different than others. For instance, it is to my understanding that there are some who are strictly in the realm of women being completely independent commonly labeled “man-haters” due to believing they do not need a man’s help at all. There are those who are solely focused on the continued fight of equal rights for women amongst men within careers and other everyday situations. Then there are those who are pushing for a higher standard of woman so to speak. I’m sure there are more sects that can be delved into, but those three make a fine example given those are the most talked about from what I’ve experienced. It is completely fair to say that if you yourself define yourself as a feminist that you may fall into all three or any form of mixture. Given the broadness of the term “feminist”, I know that each individual can define it completely different from the next. So, what is it that you hold most dear in regards to being a feminist?

I myself am a man, so hopefully those who hold disdain towards us can tolerate the questions to possibly shed more knowledge on what it is exactly you would consider feminism to be. Why is it you choose to label yourself with that term? What has getting involved in such a movement done for you in your life? Have you seen a positive change personally and around you since partaking in it? There are many questions that can be asked as I am a curious person who likes to learn more about the cultures around him. However, there are a few points that I would like to go into further where I have found some controversy as is usually the case with any form of societal group.

It seems that when you bring up pornography there is a pretty substantial divide within your community. What side of the fence do you find yourself on? There seems to be a favor for it by some, claiming that it is something that provides empowerment, freedom, or expression. There is also the side that claims it is completely degrading, disrespectful, and treacherous to the imagery of women. What is it that you feel? Are you one of those who stand up for that industry with which some women are making quite a bit of money or are you one who believes it is a type of slavery in a man’s world?

It is hard for me to believe that any woman could call themselves a protector of the gender, while many women are forced to do things against their will within that particular industry. The other factors of looking at differing statistics of lifestyles resulting from such involvements stem to drug addiction, countless surgical alterations, diseases, abortions, etc. I am not one to argue that there are women who blatantly choose that lifestyle as it is everyone’s right to have a choice having free will and everything. My question is what about those who don’t have a choice because of said industry influencing certain types of behavior or underground “industries” that actually enslave women for financial gain? Human trafficking is a huge problem as is rape, if you support pornography do you not draw correlations? What is your counter argument for claiming one is acceptable and not the other? Does it lie just within the realm of “choice” or is it something deeper? Some of the women making lots of money in that industry have said they feel trapped or felt they had no other choice but to dive into that type of career. Does it not bother you that harassment is still so prevalent these days within or outside of said industry? What about the fact that it seems more women are being encouraged to participate in a lifestyle where their body is the focus instead of their mental capabilities?

I see the inner turmoil of the group and continue to wonder how something so prominent can result in such a divide. Is it simply just a case of being so vast like many other groups that there are just so many differing opinions or is it something a bit different since there are no set beliefs to follow or abide by? If someone labels themselves as one of your own, a feminist, are they a hypocrite or falsely labeling themselves if they support something that can be in essence a detriment to women? What exactly is the consensus in regards to how support is given to those identifying as a feminist? How many different options are there out there for women to get involved in the movement in regards to organizations or awareness opportunities? One could simply tell me to “google it”, but as mentioned prior I know each individual defines things a bit differently… so it is my hopes that a response can be given to further learn from a more diverse crowd.

I, personally, am in full support of women’s rights, but prefer those that are in line with a quality moral code. Things like earning wages, job opportunities, work environments, education, etc. are all things with which I can get behind and support. Then there are others avenues that try to portray hatred, when all they want in return is acceptance. Sometimes it can get a bit silly in my opinion, for instance, when I try to hold the door for a woman and they refuse to go through it by either opening a different door or just standing there. I can understand independence and the like, but is it really necessary for those types of extremes? As I said, I would never culminate a singular opinion on such a diverse group. I again, am moreso curious as to the thoughts of those who label themselves as such. Like many other large groupings, what is it that makes your cause different?

I thank you for your time in reading and hope that you will take the time to respond to some of the questions. I apologize for the limited options of talking points and the minimum focus on a particular topic, but still hope that something can come out of it. As stated, I am always looking to learn and what better way that to ask questions that could potentially lead to more discussion. Have a great day!

Eyes Open

I am frankly quite tired of seeing the negative ways that women are being treated today in our world. Every country has their faults; then again many of those faults are similar to a certain degree. When we as males are looking at the opposite gender for the sole purpose of personal pleasure, there has to be a line drawn. There are far too many women out there dealing with harassment, abuse, and sexual assault. The fact that there are so many different forms of those three descriptions is becoming quite alarming. I can’t tell you how many different women I’ve met in passing that can tell a story of experiencing at least one severe form of negative behavior from a male. In this day and age it seems the characteristics considered as “being a man” are far from what they actually should be.

I am at a point where each day I can’t help but consciously think about all the negative acts that are occurring somewhere that have negative effects on a woman. I see creative campaign after campaign trying to stress the importance of stopping things such as sexual assault, abuse, and harassment only to quickly fade away. To raise awareness on these types of societal problems is always great, but persistence is what should really take place when conducting such an operation. The other issues I see with these types of endeavors are that the people being used to push them don’t utilize the status they have to address more of the underlying problems. There are blatant roots to the development of the mindsets and actions that are being taken, which are being left alone allowing this trend of horrific behaviors to continue.

Many males out there today try to call themselves “men” when in fact they are nothing but cowards. Story after story of domestic violence is being portrayed over various media outlets. There isn’t a day that goes by where someone isn’t being trafficked against their will for means of sexual exploitation, which operations such as those are primarily ran by males. You see time after time marriages and relationships ending due to cheating, dishonesty, or lack of effort all of which are stemming from immoral acts such as lust or addiction. I’m not saying that women aren’t guilty of similar antics when it comes to cheating, dishonesty, violence, harassment, abuse, or lack of effort. What I am saying though is that we as men need to correct our values and treatment of women so they can once again feel comfortable and protected as a whole. Seeing men point the finger at women trying to pass blame rather than take responsibility is another variable where cowardice truly shows. As time has passed it is almost as if women have been forced into replicating certain negative behaviors at times just to survive. As stated prior, the view of women falling primarily in relation to forms of objectivity is out of control.

If you have yet to notice there is a great deal of surprise when an act of kindness is shown these days, no matter what the relationship is with the other person… known or stranger. Much the same the acts of being a gentleman and viewing forms of chivalry or courtship are almost long gone. These days there isn’t much of a distinction between the two genders with which is seeking sexual interaction more within a normal social situation. However, it wasn’t all that long ago where men were widely considered the aggressor when it came to that form of pursuit. With the growing problems that propose sex being of utmost importance there doesn’t seem to be an end in sight for things like harassment, abuse, and sexual assault especially with the rapid growth of more and more social media outlets. The voices much like mine that are tired of seeing these mistreatments prosper within societies are being overshadowed by the masses who are simply ignoring the origins of such issues and allowing them to grow. There are many that would rather continue to overlook the problems and allow certain lifestyles to remain under the guise of wrongful definitions rather than spark the necessary change. Not truly knowing the extent to which some of these things are happening I believe is another hindrance for the proper change to take place. Without there being much done to end some of these methods that stem such behavior… it would sadly appear that there will be plenty more lives affected for the worse.

With that said I am continually sorry to those who have gone through or are enduring these terrible experiences within their lives. I am also sorry for those who feel conducting these horrific acts somehow makes them a stronger or more powerful person rather than a scumbag. We as men are meant to protect, love, and respect women NOT harm, disown, and mistreat them.

NRNS

I may catch a lot of hate
That’s fine, that’s great
It isn’t easy bein’ right
But well worth the fight

You know me, I say only in marriage
With many, they’ll just disparage
That’s fine, I realize difference
Everyone has free will insistence

Regardless we can all agree
There shouldn’t be sex without that respect degree
So many voice how they’ve been used
Or mistreated and at times mentally abused

It’s a vicious cycle this sexual craze
With everyone scramblin’ through this maze
It leaves many in a haze
Focused on one thing as they steadily gaze

I’m tired of hearin’ the complaints
When it was their choice to taint
Their special gift
Through means that are illegitimate

It isn’t so much the whining
As it is the stupidity and timing
Actions speak louder than words
So if you don’t get respect expect the absurd

Just because someone says one thing
Doesn’t mean you should submit willingly
There are more lies to acquire pleasure
Than you will ever be able to measure

If one can’t bother to commit
You can bet their intent isn’t legit
So many aspects to a relationship
Why focus on sex when so much more is relevant

Many these days intertwine before they kiss
If you look at a target, that’s clearly a miss
The switch needs to be flipped
Back to romance, chivalry, and courtship

No need for unwanted pregnancies and disease
Or the development to be in the realm of cheat
So many are depleted and relationships ruined
All because sex was willy nilly, not knowin’ what they’re doin’

If you don’t get respect, why give sex
Somethin’ so special, somethin’ so complex
There’s no reason to sell yourself short
Maintain your integrity, no need for the export

But let’s be real for a second
Many just don’t have self respect
Which leaves cracks in their dignity
Allowin’ for the messes of insanity

No respect… No sex
It’s a simple concept
Even though our views may be different on when
That principle should still apply over and over again

Room

She’s afraid and ashamed
Entrapped and enraged
Held against her will, looking for a change

But she can’t escape
Despite the pain and no gain
Her fear keeps her detained

Watching herself deteriorate
She screams on the inside
She’s irate, held captive in her mind

Looking for a break
Someone or something to aid her
Since she herself feels too weak to bother

Left feeling hopeless and alone
Despite many interactions
She has yet to feel true satisfaction

Where’s hope and love she asks
While left dealing with demeaning tasks
She deserves better, a way to get back on the right track

Far too many out there endure similar
Hidden away from the public eye
Methods varying significantly, all encaged like a prisoner

Sad to know how vast it is
While the majority are taking things for granted
They continue to feel emptiness implanted

Wake up to those that surround you
Symbols and signs constantly shine through
It’s just a matter of noticing them, so progress can ensue

Rush Hour

There’s a traffic jam that shouldn’t exist
We can’t seem to get any control of it
Not found in the mainstream, just appears dismissed
When will solutions and support come forth to commit

You have countless numbers of feminists
Yet the problem still continues to persist
I’m troubled at the law that tries to negate it
All the while being the first ones to submit

People shout for rights and equality
All while many are suffering lives of slavery
It is right in our backyard and on our streets
Yet we aren’t seeing any real urgency

Young women being kidnapped and harassed
Not in the typical form where they’ll ever get their life back
Many turning a blind eye or just aren’t aware
Because it seems as if they’re caught in the glare

Everywhere you turn there is prostitution
With policy makers giving them business
Pornography distracting people from a solution
Because hardly anyone feels it needs to be addressed

All these cowards feeding lies and deceit to many ladies
Saying they’ll get treated more than fairly
Forcing them to give in and sell their bodies
How often do we see news on this, never or at best rarely

It isn’t just women, but young kids of both genders
They’re all caught up in this ridiculous blunder
The fact that it is so rampant makes one wonder
Can we correct it or will it continue to thrive in a hidden splendor

The traffic that takes place isn’t by vehicle
And the chance of seeing a fix right now is miniscule
I never even heard of it within my years of school
So when can we expect to be equipped with the proper tools

This has gone on far too long in silence
Many get sucked in through addiction and violence
So the crimes stack up and yet it isn’t public
Still makes me question the methods behind our republic

The scenario is clouded with the jam still in tact
Will you do some research today and begin to react
Or continue to sit back and relax
While more innocents gets stolen away leaving no tracks

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